Things Dudes Have Said to Me After Sex Yes Bon Bed Mon

8 min readNov 30, 2020

you’re like Amy Schumer hot
you were like really into it
do you know Bon Iver?
do you know what Bon Iver means though?
I’m considering an MFA
your butt looks like an old painting
you look like a combination of Zooey Deschanel and Katy Perry
you’ve gotten better at that
what day is it?
do you have a droid charger?
I’m 19
I can’t drive you home I’m on shrooms
my brother is a vine star
you seemed more like a virgo online
those are oak trees
cigarettes are cartoonish
oh I’ve been in jail
are you still doing improv?
want to come to my karate class?
I have a boat
see you around
do I look like hozier?
let’s go to the whole foods
boobs are cool
I have to go work on my sound collage
I’m 6'3", so…
I’m starting a webseries when I get back in town
me and my boss are musicians
I have the best sound system in lower manhattan
squirt comes out the pee-hole
do you know how to make a private facebook event public?
have you seen master of none?
was that so bad?

Our brains can’t deliver peak performance every minute of the day — it works differently as the day progresses.

Some days you can perform at the top of your game. Others days, you may struggle to do your best work. It happens to even top performers.

Just like the muscles, some people train in the gym, your brain requires stimulation and exercise to grow and maintain cognitive function.

Experiments in neuroplasticity (our brain’s ability to change throughout your life) have proven that the brain is capable of modifying itself, either by changing its structure, increasing and reducing its size or altering its biochemistry.

Neuroplasticity works through repetition and mental stimulation. A lot of the good change you expect for better cognitive function is in your control — you can train your brain to achieve peak performance.

The question then is, what habits, routines, activities, and stimulations really work? What can you do daily to train your brain to achieve performance? There’s no substitute for intellectual labour, but there are ways to maintain a healthy brain.

Choose activities or exercises that involve as many parts of the brain as possible — eyes, ears, mouth, hands and feet. These are all mental processes critical to peak performance.

Examples, you can throw a ball against the wall or recite a poem while doing jumping jacks. While walking on a treadmill, read a book or a magazine. The goal is to make your brain work hard in sync with your body.

“Each of these examples works multiple parts of your brain and body simultaneously, in ways that will improve your focus, decision-making ability and coordination,” says John Kennedy, a pioneer in the field of applied neuroplasticity and director of the Mental Performance Institute.

To improve cognitive performance, develop a growth mindset

“Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning., said Benjamin Franklin.

Mindsets inform action, so those with a growth mindset about the brain’s ability to improve or change are thought to be more likely to build new and better habits that can enhance cognitive performance.

“I think that the growth mindset is a very helpful brain hack. The growth mindset emphasises the possibility of change and growth as opposed to focusing on capacity or ability,” explains Dr Linda Wilbrecht, Associate Professor, UC Berkeley.

You can improve your cognition function through effort, practice, and persistence. When you are open to embracing new habits and activities, you can build pathways that can make your brain stronger and smarter.

According to research, the brain gradually stops registering a sight, sound or feeling if stimulus remains constant for too long. You lose your focus and your performance on the tasks decline.

The brain naturally functions in spurts of high energy (roughly an hour) followed by spurts of low energy (10–20 minutes).

This natural ebb and flow of energy should be used for high-value tasks and breaks. Working with your body, not against it is the ultimate productivity hack. You can’t demand more of your brain if it’s low on energy.

There is certainly evidence that when the prefrontal cortex, the part that does a lot of rational decision making, is depleted in energy, your rationality and ability to make sound decisions decreases,” says Dr Randall Platt, Assistant Professor, ETH Zurich.

“The best brain hacks I can think of are more like scheduling or optimization hacks.” “I would recommend giving your highest performing time to your most demanding tasks. If you’re best at 7 in the morning, and you’re checking emails at that time, I don’t think you’re optimally using your capacity,” he tells Sainsbury Wellcome Centre.

When you are consistently stressed, anxious, frustrated or upset, your brain becomes too busy trying to control negative feelings — you spend a lot of mental energy and you become too distracted to perform well.

“Two systems in your brain are competing,” says Neuroscientist Hans Hagemann and co-author of The Leading Brain: Powerful Science-Based Strategies for Achieving Peak Performance.

“That leads to not being focused on anything anymore.” To regain cognitive control, recognize and ‘label’ how you feel, he said. Learn to be more aware of your own emotional states and tame them accordingly.

Peak performers control their emotions to think optimally and clearly. When your emotions are under control, you can consciously put yourself in the best state that gets you in a position, and in a situation, where you can really perform at your best.

You can reduce the risk of cognitive decline if you are open to learning new or difficult skills beyond your comfortable domain. The more you engage your brain, the better.

A study on the impact of sustained engagement on cognitive function found that learning new and demanding skills while maintaining an engaged social network is key to staying sharp as we age.

“It seems it is not enough just to get out and do something — it is important to get out and do something that is unfamiliar and mentally challenging, and that provides broad stimulation mentally and socially. When you are inside your comfort zone you may be outside of the enhancement zone,” explains, lead researcher Denise Park of the University of Texas at Dallas.

To benefit from new experiences, cultivate your curiosity, master new and better skills, habits and activities that push your boundaries. Challenging mental activities can slow cognitive decline.

Practicing, exploring, and learning new things can give your brain the full workout it needs to perform at its best

The key takeaway is that your brain’s efficiency can be improved by small shifts and steps in the right direction. To improve your cognitive performance, pair mental stimulation with physical activity, develop a growth mindset, work with your body, not again it, learn to regulate negative emotions and

Richard Feynman, a Nobel Prize winner and one of the greatest physicists of the 20th century said that.

Here’s the full quote, “You have no responsibility to live up to what other people think you ought to accomplish. I have no responsibility to be like they expect me to be. It’s their mistake, not my failing.”

Expectations can easily get in the way of great life experiences.

We all have moments of self-doubt. But when you become too sensitive to social disapproval most of your life, you will end up living someone else’s life and being miserable.

Expectations are an illusion — it’s like chasing a moving target. People will always have multiple hopes for you. Social pressure fluctuates — others’ expectations will continually change. …

Morning and evening routines are the “bookends” of a prosperous life, argues Darren Hardy in his book, The Compound Effect.

In his book Daily Rituals: How Artists Work, Mason Currey writes about the habits, routines, and rituals of history’s greatest minds.

After studying the great artists, Currey came to this conclusion:

“In the right hands, [a routine] can be a finely calibrated mechanism for taking advantage of a range of limited resources: time (the most limited resource of all) as well as willpower, self-discipline, optimism. …

“The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function.”

F. Scott Fitzgerald said that in 1936. He was an American writer and novelist.

At the age of 24, the success of his first novel, This Side of Paradise, made Fitzgerald famous. The Great Gatsby is considered Fitzgerald’s finest work.

While he achieved limited success in his lifetime, he is now widely regarded as one of the greatest American writers of the 20th century.

Intelligence encompasses many related mental abilities, such as the capacities to reason, plan, solve problems, think abstractly and comprehend ideas or language. …

Intelligence is a work in progress. Everything a smart person knows, they learned from somewhere at one point or another.

Getting smarter doesn’t necessarily mean a huge commitment of time and energy every day.

If you can consistently train your brain to adapt to new situations and information — you will get smarter with time.

The good news is, you don’t have to spend a lot of time every day to become wiser, intelligent or smarter than you were yesterday. …

2020 has been exhausting. If you want to be better, you can’t afford to do what everyone is doing. You can’t maintain a “keep up” mindset.

The demands of life in the fast lane come at a price: stress, fatigue, burnout and depression are few effects of aiming for change without deliberate purpose. Pursuing self-improvement at all cost will make you worse.

Many people want to be better — they want to be able to exercise, feed their curiosity, read more books, maintain a healthy lifestyle, embrace meditation and wake up at the crack of dawn in the name of getting an early start. …

Things Dudes Have Said to Me After Sex Yes Bon Bed Mon

To improve cognitive performance, develop a growth mindset

Written by Tasi Khasobai